It’s so heartbreaking to see others have to walk this excruciating journey as they face the nightmare called suicide in the loss of their child. None of us want to be in this bereavement group.
No one ever knows what to say. There just are no words to cover it.
I reached out to another grieving parent today. I told him these words. They kind of sum it all up.
“I’d lend you my supposed “strength” that people all comment about. But I have none …. nor do I have the resilience that others think I do.
The fact is…. when we lose a child, we just go through the motions everyday for the rest of our lives. People think we are strong to survive the loss….but do we really survive it? I don’t think we do. We just exist on a different plane and our bodies and thought process become automated to attempt to fit into a place where we don’t belong anymore.
Just take every breath as it comes today Joe. Do what you need to do to just breathe. I feel your pain. It mingles with mine: with all of ours who are not here in the group by choice.
My thoughts are with you and your family on this horrible day. Give your boy a send off that he will be proud of: I guarantee you that his energy is there amongst all of you. His love for you will live on.
You will see him again.
Big hug, from one devastated grieving parent to another.”
There are never the right words. There just, are no words.